Yeah i know i just did this one. This one deals with friends and friendships. What makes a good friendship? I obviously I have not idea. I thought it was just being there when a person needed help. Someone they could trust. At least that is what I thought it was. I’ve never had what you would call “alot” of close friends. Instead I usually have one or two people that i’m close to and the rest are just people I don’t call strangers. For me it’s not really easy to hang out with friends. I tell people up front my life is very very and i mean very busy. I have a job that is basically 24/7/365. And add to that two kids that I will drop anything else to be with and my time for extras is tight. Let me stress this again. I TELL PEOPLE THAT UP FRONT. I don’t know whether they think i’m exaggerating, lying, or what. But it always ends up with me being the bad guy because I can’t devote much time to them. I guess they have alot of free time and figure I have the same. On the subject of Friendship. Should friendship be a chore? Should you be made to feel like an asshole because you can’t devote major time to it? What do you do when your “friend” constantly berates your friendship abilities. How many times can you explain it has nothing to do with them as a person it’s simply a time issue. There is only so much you can take before you pop your top with someone like that. To me a friend is a friend no matter how often you see them. I made friends in the Marines Corps that I’ll probably never see again. Does that mean they are no longer my friend? I guess I just don’t understand people. How they can get so upset about such a small thing and blow it completely out of proportion. When a friendship starts to become more of a chore than a pleasure it’s probably time for the people to go their separate ways. Doesn’t mean either of the people are bad people. It just means that due to whatever personality conflicts the two just shouldn’t be friends. Not being friends should not mean they are enemies. Of course your other friends are going to take your side on the matter. That’s their job. There is nothing more sorry than to see one of their other friends or group of friends stick their nose into something they know nothing about. I know friends stick up for friends, but i would never want a friend of mine to do that to another person. I consider myself a pretty intelligent person and those little mind games aren’t going to upset me. All they do is make me think less of them. In my full life the last thing i want is drama. I will not tolerate it. Everything in my life isn’t perfect but I’m ok with that. I may bitch about my job but in truth i love what i do. It’s not the typical 9 to 5 same ole same ole everyday grind. Just from the one job my resume would look more like a book than a piece of paper. I have two of the best kids you could ever ask for and I treasure every single second I get to spend with them. I will cancel any plans I have just to spend any time with them. I’m fortunate to have a couple people in my life that understand this. They take me as I am and never ask for more than i’m willing or able to give. I don’t often talk about my personal life. Maybe it’s because I’ve been a loner most of my life or maybe i prefer self reflection or maybe even it’s because i’m a man from the south and we are taught to suck it up and be a man. I would like to take this time to just say a big thanks to two people. First to Cathey. I know you never read this so :P. She has been like a second mother to me for a long time. We don’t always see eye to eye but the great thing is when we don’t we tell each other like it is. Alot of people think she can be a real bitch but if you ever become her friend you couldn’t ask for a better one. Now let’s talk about Charity. I must only like C’s. Her life and outlook on life is very similar to mine. She is one of the most kind evil women I know. She is always willing to help others before herself and very few things rattle her. I’ve never met anyone that is more willing to help you than accept help for herself. She does it all with an air of modesty and dignity. I can’t thank you two enough for being my friends. Thanks for accepting me as I am and putting up with my quirks </sappy>
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